Today I spent a majority of the day finishing up this book. The title is ridiculous but the messages inside are not. Sophia is a pretty rad lady with a set of business ethics I can abide by. I won't give away any specifics about the book but I wanted to share a few helpful insights.
I was most impressed by her statement: Don't idolize anyone, besides yourself, of course. It's great to support and uplift others, but idolization can make you feel inferior. You are just as good as Jennifer Aniston....... she is just a human being that is an actress. I had a real problem with this growing up. I thought celebrities were gods. I would dream about meeting Julia Roberts (pretty woman and Steel Magnolias were my favorite movies growing up). Obviously, I was not the only one that felt this way, people are absolutely crazy about celebrities. Although I outgrew that obsession I moved onto another. As I started making art a full-time gig I began to idolize female artists like Sally Mann and Marina Abramovic. I wanted there status and experiences. As I went through grad school I began to realize that I really liked my experiences and my status. Cool ass art chick making work about body image and sexuality while showing her vagina to the world with no hesitation.... well there was hesitation the first few times......... it can get cold laying naked in an art gallery. Somehow I just shed the layer of giving a fuck about status and realized I had to soak up all the experiences I've had. Time spent idolizing someone could be time spent making moves to achieve your dreams.
Amoruso also gives great advise on money! I really needed this..... I am not very financial responsible. Her motto is "Cash is King." Don't spend money you don't have. I have endured 9 years of post secondary schooling sooooooo basically i've already fucked that up, but besides that i've always stayed within my means, until this year! I kinda went crazy on a credit card and I could punch myself in the face for it, however, I know especially after reading this, that I need to slow my role. I've opened up and eBay shop and have several other outlets in the works, but this is the first time in my life i've never had a job. This is a blessing and a curse. I have little income, but i'm making art like crazy and I've never been happier. I knew after I got back from traveling about Europe for a few months that I would be kicking it at a desert ranch in Arizona making art for a while without income, but that didn't stop me from spending money like a baller in the EU. I do not regret it one bit, I just know I have to get my art hustle on and find a job immediately after completing the teaching credentials program at Lewis and Clark.
She also discusses the law of attraction, and claims that luck is bullshit, both of which I agree. I didn't get lucky, I worked my fucking ass off to go to grad school, travel to Europe, have 6 months off to make work. I came from no money, grad school was covered by an assistantship plus a stipend, Europe happened because while in grad school I applied for scholarships everyday so that I could save my stipend. Working hard to get what you want feels soooooooooo good. Sometimes I cry because i'm so happy i've been able to do the things I have. I'm from South Dakota and I grew up dreaming about places like LA and New York of which I've been to both countless times. I'm not saying this because I want you to think i'm cool, I just want you to know you can have the things you dream about. My friends Holly and Tiana made fun of me a bit because the first time I went to New York I was so terrified we wouldn't land and that I would literally just hoover over my dreams (we had to stay in the air hovering over the Hudson for an hour because of a backup), but we landed. I cried on top of the Empire State Building like a two year old.
I will stop here for tonight, but i'm positive I will bring this book up again. It good shit. Empowering. Real. Check it out if have the chance.